Tuesday, October 5, 2010

The World Needs You at Your Best

The World Needs You at Your Best
                                    Erwin McManus"Wide Awake"

In a day that seemed anything but balanced, I picked up a book that I haven't read recently and flipped through it and this statement jumped out at me.
It's the reason i believe finding balance is so important.
As I quickly try to get this blog done while stuffing a piece of pizza in my mouth, so I can run hit two grocery stores to do couponing,  My 14 year old has told me twice in a very on the edge of manly voice that "I'm not listening" and my daughter is yelling "I never listen to her", and my husband suddenly decided to get chatty(breath)....
Sometimes I wonder how it's possible to get up at 5ish every morning and still feel like there isn't enough time in the day.  Where did this day get so off track and is it possible to reel it in?  Well it's 6:15 so more than likely not.  Sometimes things just happen, they are beyond our control and we have to put them behind us and just move on. Part of balance is not sweating the small stuff.  Keeping our perspective despite things that might affect us unexpectedly.
In order to be our best we need to keep our perspective, and stay focused.
We have important things to do!

Saturday, October 2, 2010


  1. a state of equilibrium ,a scale for weighing; depends on pull of gravity
    2.    harmonious arrangement or relation of parts or elements within a whole (as in a design);

    3.    equality of distribution

I love definition two!  As uniquely designed beings balance looks different for all of us.  For instance, I don't work 8+ hours of hard labor everyday as my husband does.  I'm busy but not like his busy.  I have to watch what I eat even when I'm exercising very regularly,  I keep my portion size down work hard to make good choices and generally don't feel so hot if i over indulge.  Hubby however can come home have a big dinner and then continue to snack until he goes to bed and his weight never changes.
Balance looks different for both of us.  I have found this to be the case in almost every area of our life.  I think we need to embrace this.  We shouldn't polarize because of these differences but rejoice in them. Acknowledgement of this should give us the freedom to just be who we are designed to be.  As humans I don't believe balance is to be perfect, but  it is simply to recognize when things become unequally distributed, and then to take the action necessary to correct it.
Unfortunately that's the hard part.  The correction.  Don't you wish there was a magic equation?

  1. a perceptual structure
  2. a customary way of operation or behavior
  3. a decorative or artistic work
  4. something regarded as a normative example
A customary way of operation or behavior.
There isn't a magic equation but there are indicators.  The problem is we generally choose to ignore them.  To find balance we need to be willing to look at our customary ways of operations or behaviors and establish which areas are working and which ones are not.  Pattern changing requires single minded determination,  it is not easy but it is a necessary step on the road to wholeness.
I suggest that you choose one little pattern and one big pattern of behavior that you know you need to change, write them down, choose to look at them and the negative connotations they have in your life, be aware and step by step do it different.
When the problem is 10 extra lbs this year and you can easily point to the habit you picked up last summer of a bowl of ice cream every night, making a commitment to knock it down to a bowl one night a week isn't really so hard.  When the problem is a long time addiction or bottled up anger or ???? fill in the blank it's not so easy, sometimes the first step is asking for or seeking help.  If this is where your at I encourage you to check out my other blog and see where my help comes from and then take the necessary steps to seek out your help.  http://imoff-toseethewizard.blogspot.com/

Ok, I got a little long winded  and serious here today,  but I feel very strongly that this is an important aspect of wholeness.


Friday, October 1, 2010

What Stops You?

Be not afraid of life. Believe that life is worth living and your belief will help create the fact.
                                                                     William James

As I'm sitting here thinking about what direction I want to go first in this new blog of mine,I realized that we all have different things that hold us back that keep us from our dreams.

This is all new to me and not so very comfortable.I know my grammar stinks and thank goodness for spell check.I am not eloquent nor am I a computer whiz...so why am i doing this???

I have struggled with weight and struggled with things that stop me,things like fear and discouragement,boredom and self esteem.I am learning to balance areas of my life now and have a passion to walk through these and other issues with people who are struggling as well.Today I would love to hear specifically what stops you in regard to physical fitness,go to the fitness page and fill me in.This will help me in my postings on fitness.
Thanks, Neva
One of my favorite ways to encourage people to move towards Balance is to suggest that today you pick one long term pattern{Could be 3 cups of coffee every morning,or being 2 minutes late everyday,maybe its to much t.v.(cant miss Oprah its her last season..lol) the possibilities go on and on} and change it!
It doesn't have to be big but it can be.Ok so here's mine....things got so crazy before and during the move to Kansas that we(Hubby) and i were falling in to bed exhausted most nights and somewhere along the way we stopped saying i love you before we fell asleep,suddenly we just don't say it any more.On the way out the door in the morning we say it,but at bed time it's been axed.I am not really loving that new pattern so tonight I'm doing it different.